Wow, what can I say, a lot of things have changed in just a few months since my last post. I've done 2 dance competitions so far both at silver level! I'm starting to feel more comfortable with the routines and more comfortable with the improv that tends to happen from time to time.
As quickly as I started the second job at the rink I decided it would be best to leave. While it was fun for the most part, there was enough that made me decide it would be best to part ways and return to just be a skater instead of an employee. Plus the whole working 7 days a week thing wasn't going to last forever.
Perhaps the biggest and most exciting piece of news is in the relationship department...I'm not quite sure what this is called at this point but whatever it is, it's good :) I figured give the online dating thing one more try on a newer platform. Guy 1 had some promise but clearly I was more interested than he was. Guy 2 was clearly more interested in things that I wasn't going to pursue on a first date. Guy 3...I guess third time's the charm?
It was intriguing that he opted for dinner for the first date instead of the usual "meet and drink" scenario. I wasn't quite sure what to expect, he had changed his look several times from the initial profile picture. I wouldn't say sparks flew or anything like that but it wasn't bad either. He seemed really nervous but interesting enough to give him a second chance when he asked. I figured maybe if he was in a more natural comfortable habitat he'd be a little less nervous.
Date 2 was at a rock climbing gym. Again an intriguing choice. This was also a fascinating test in trust because once we got to the big walls I was the only climbing as he was the only one trained to belay the ropes. He was definitely more at ease overall which was nice to see. After climbing for awhile we headed to dinner and just talked. It was a bit surreal, sure there were other people around us but I didn't really notice. It was almost like they were all blurry and just the two of us were in focus.
At this point I've lost track of the dates since then, but we've gone skating, dancing, gymnastics class, acroyoga, to the movies twice!, had each other over for dinner and started meeting some of each other's friends.
I'm not sure what I am, I don't want to say conflicted because that's not the right word. But I guess I just want to be sure this is right. Dating life in the big city usually yields more horror stories than anything else. So how could I have figured it out on guy 3? We've talked every day since we first matched online and it just seems easy. I think we're both just ourselves and it's ok. There's none of the games about what to say, how to say it or when to say it. It just is.
Now when we go 3 or 4 days without seeing each other, I get a little butterfly when I know we have plans again. Could it be "The One"? That thought has definitely crossed my mind. But I think it crosses every girl's mind. He either is "The One" or not, the odds are 50/50. It's different having someone so interested in me and not the other way around. He initiates most conversation, he takes care of most outings. He respects my boundaries so far and hopefully will continue to do so. Perhaps most telling of all, he makes me feel safe. Like nothing can go wrong and I don't have to worry about any wandering eyes. And he's the one that continually talks about the future, I don't mean "The One" sort of future, but like 5-6 months down the road.
But until we figure that out, it's been a pretty awesome ride these last 2.5 months and hopefully this ride will keep going for the foreseeable future.
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